It’s easy to think “I’m the only one around here who bothers to…” or “Why do I always have to be the one who…?” and ignore all the tasks you don’t do. Also, when you add up the tasks that you do tackle, keep in mind that they may seem less important to someone else than they do to you. – Gretchen Ruben
It’s easy to think “I’m the ONLY one who does ANYTHING around here!” but in reality we only focus on the thing we find important to us. Over-claiming is when we unconsciously overestimate our contributions relative to other people’s contributions. For example, I’ve found myself wondering why I’m the only person between the two of us who vacuums and dusts the apartment, but then I remember how much Tyler helps me outside of the home by taking out the garbage, adding fluid to my car, and running to the store. Although I believe that what we do between the two of us is split pretty equal, I understand how many couples deal with this everyday. In the future, instead of complaining about how much YOU have to do to keep the house afloat, consider everything your significant other does to assist as well. That will put things into perspective and make you appreciate them doing all the things you don’t consider as important!
Where I think having fresh baked cookies in the apartment is important, Tyler makes an amazing trip planner!!!
Bay Beach park – City of Greey Bay, WI: